[최자로드 기사를 보고] 교리(敎理)는 라이프스타일 제안이므로, 살아 내는 것이다

토요일 교리를 준비하다가 최자가 최애한다는 맛집 기사를 읽고 너무나 감동해서, 기사 링크(글 맨 아래)를 여기저기 옮겼다.

크. 이 형 진짜 멋있게 사는 것 같다. 거창한 맛집 아니고 동네 맛집인데, 거기에 제일 좋아하는 메뉴가 있고, 자기만의 먹는 방법이 있다. 순대에 레드와인이라니 ㅋㅋ 그것도 편의점 와인. 제품과 따르는 방법(편의점 봉투에 넣어섴ㅋ)까지 가르쳐준다. 고걸 또 친구들 데리고 와서 먹는, 하. 행복해 보인다.
사실 교리라는 것도 ‘라이프스타일 제안’이다. 그 라이프스타일을 제안하는 방식도 최자의 그것과 같아야한다. ‘아 저 형 멋있다. 저렇게 살고 싶다’는 생각이 드는 형들이 있지 않나. 그 순간이 바로 우리가 하나의 라이프스타일을 습득하게 되는 순간 인거지.
카톨릭이 지향하는 라이프스타일의 중심에는 예수님께서 가르치신 ‘사랑’이 있다. 이 가치도 충분히 멋지다. 인류가 존재하는 한 없어지지 않고 존속될 가치다. 그 가치를 각자의 스타일로 살아 낼 때, 그 가치를 충.분.히. 발휘 하면서 살아 낼 때, 비로소 영향력이 생긴다.
슬프고 무서운건, ‘교리’는 떠들어 대는 게 본질이 아니라, ‘살아 내야’만 한다는 사실을 망각하기가 너무 쉽다는 점. 내가 하는 말과 내 삶이 달라질 때, 그 사람은 술자리 허풍쟁이와 다를 바 없다. 재미 없고 시시하다. 짜증난다. 나부터 그렇게 살고 보자.

글 링크:  [HYPEBEAST] 최자로드 – Ep.1 을지로 푸아그라

 

 

 

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Becoming A True Adult with Authentic Answers

This year is my 10th year as a catechist in my church, a roman catholic church in Korea. I also became 30-years-old in Korean age which is considered as a real label of 아저씨.

I’ve safely and thankfully passed many stages to become an adult during that journey such as getting into a college and a company that I can be proud of.

However, it does not really matter that I passed the stages that my students are currently face when I am trying to give my advice for my students. I cannot fully understand their situation and way for them to go. I cannot help but realize how lucky I was.

What kind of hope I can give my students besides the prayers for them? Can I show them  hope and future?

Becoming a true adult is not guaranteed by passing certain number of age and passing some tasks of life. Some bad adults think their age and achievements in life such as a decent job naturally give them the authority or a status as a true adult. Then, the common advice provided by these ‘bad’ adults is usually ‘work harder(노오오오력)’.

The true adult here means someone that our students want to ask for advice and the ones that really inspire them. In order to do so, we not only need some achievement that our students regard as a sign of solving the problems they have, but also need to go deeper into the circumstances where the young people are and understand the core of the struggle and show them some hope to get out of the struggle.

Sometimes the answer is easy and can be just ‘work harder’ of course. But we need to show them the ‘direction’. For example, they would need to work harder to find their true selves or find their true passion. But it would rather less mean study harder at school whatever the subjects are then get into whatever university with decent brand name. That means nothing to most of the kids. We even need to think about whether getting into a college is necessary or not.

Our advice must be personal too. Each student has their own story. There never is one single solution that can solve every problem of our kids. We must know more about them one by one while showing them we truly care and love them. Sometimes that is just enough even when we cannot find a good answer.

I am not sure if anyone would read this post. But if you are here, I am sorry to tell you that it does not have any answer. It’s just a traction of my thinking. I just hope to have someone who can share his or her knowledge or experience.

Below is the document films that I plan to watch with my colleagues in the Sunday school. Good thing is that I have the people who feel the same just like me and search for better answers for our students together. Hope you can be the one too.